OMG you like heavy metal

by Cosmo Lee

Invisible Oranges is not a dating advice site, because, you know…heavy metal.

But along comes “bbrian12” above, and suddenly I want to “help a brother out.” Well, not really. But his plight (in addition to poor spelling and grammar) illustrates a real-life conundrum.

At what point do you tell a love interest/potential mate/significant other of your metal-ness?

When I meet couples where only one person is a metalhead, I always ask at what point such disclosure occurred. The answers are always different and interesting.

I read all 16 pages of bbrian12’s message board thread. (Brain…leaking…slowly…) It comes from a US-wide site that is truly general interest. (A thread started two minutes ago: “We wanna live in Orlando – hear me out…”) The unwashed masses weigh in on all sorts of metalhead dating issues, and it’s fascinating to observe.

With regards to disclosure timing, “cdubs3201” says:

I am exactly like you and I have this exact same problem. The answer: don’t tell them until deeper in the relationship. Say you like a lot of types of music or just say you like rock. You don’t have to tell them what type of rock (heavy metal is rock). I just don’t bring it up anymore, because it prevented me from getting another date. It’s a flag for women, I don’t know why, but it is, just don’t bring it up.

Poor bbrian12 responds:

very good advice
but…
id rather know now that these people have a problem with my music than after a while when i really like the person.

and if they should ever come to my place they are gonna see my cd collection and be like WTF.

Your thoughts?